a step parent can be a tough job
Being a step parent is a different from being an
adoptive parent job, but a common sense realistic position of the author
is relevant and to the point for the situation of the older internationally
adoptee: win the respect of your child first and then look for love
and true attachment of the child - those are not given to you with the
Patty Cogen, Ed. D.
Tatyana Gindis, BGCenter, Director
Boris Gindis, Ph. D
or disconnect: who is to blame for Artyoms fate and can we correct
A brutally awakening story of Artyom is almost behind us, but things
that adoptive families can and should do in the future to avoid similar
disasters are current and still ahead.
M. Muchnik, CCC-SLP
Presentation 8: How to request speech/language
services for your child
Many parents of the internationally adopted youngsters
find themselves in situations when their child demonstrates speech and
language issues in the native tongue that may be perceived at school
as transient and borderline, i.e. not significant enough, to warrant
any intensive speech/language remediation. This misunderstanding typically
arises from a lack of exposure of some educators and mental health professionals
to the specific needs and problems of international adoptees. But the
accumulated experience shows that any delay with timely remedial services
is likely to cause magnified problems in the English language learning.
To help parents address this issue with their school, below is a template
of a letter to your educational facility with detailed explanations
that you can bring up when requesting remedial services for your child.
You are also welcome to print out the referenced articles and bring
them to your school.
or Hyperarousal? Hyperactivity in traumatized and adopted children
Why is it that so many adopted children
are diagnosed with ADHD? Debbie Jeffrey, an adoptive parent and counsellor,
explains how trauma related to adoption can affect the brain in a way
which causes hyperactivity. She outlines briefly some useful parenting
strategies for these hyperaroused children.